How can I overcome loneliness?

What the science says now

Is feeling lonely the same as being alone?

No. Scientists call having few contacts social isolation, and the feeling of being alone loneliness. A review of 42 studies in middle-aged and older adults found that each one was tied to its own brain areas, with some overlap. The authors say it is too soon to draw firm conclusions. (Your social life and health: being alone and feeling lonely affect the brain differently · Alzheimer’s & Dementia)

In people; systematic review.

Why does that matter for what you do?

The story points out that more contact does not always ease loneliness. Feeling connected does not always mean seeing lots of people. So it helps to look at both sides: how many people you see, and how connected you feel with them. Then you can give a little attention to the one that needs it. (our story · Alzheimer’s & Dementia)

In people; systematic review.

Can hearing play a part?

A study followed 10,375 adults in Europe for up to 18 years. At a single point in time, poorer hearing went together with more loneliness and fewer words recalled. People who currently used a hearing aid had a weaker link between hearing and loneliness. (Social life and health: loneliness may not be the link between hearing and memory · Alzheimer’s & Dementia)

In people; observational.

What does a health agency say about connection?

The CDC says staying connected creates feelings of belonging and of being cared for. It says people with stronger social bonds are more likely to live longer, healthier lives. It also says communities with safe public places, such as parks, places of worship and recreation centers, encourage less social isolation and loneliness. (Social connection (CDC))

Official public health guidance; not a single study.

What we don’t know yet

None of the material we used tested a way to overcome loneliness. We can’t tell you which step works best, or for whom. The brain review shows links, not proof of cause. In the hearing study, people who had used a hearing aid in the past did not show the same benefit as current users. The authors say hearing care and social connection should be tested directly in future studies.

When to talk to your doctor

If loneliness feels heavy or won’t lift, or you feel down or anxious most days, tell your doctor. If you often ask people to repeat themselves, or noisy places wear you out, ask your primary care office about a hearing test. A doctor can look at your whole situation. We can’t.

Talk about it at dinner

Ask everyone at the table: “Who made you feel welcome this week, and what did they do?” Then let each person pick one friend or relative to send a short, kind message to after dinner.